LIFE GOES ON: Today & Tomorrow


Are you lonely? Loneliness comes in many forms. Isolation, social phobia, self-imposed retreat, lack of family or friends. The happiest people have a sense of community within their families, friends, neighborhoods, churches, or clubs.

We all need to belong. We all want to be included.

Shy people tend to isolate more than extroverts. Sometimes all it takes it to have one special person to connect with daily. I call it CONTINUITY.

Social Continuity means that you have someone in your life who knows about the little moments of your life. What are you doing today? How did it go yesterday? What are you doing tomorrow? Life is made up of little things that don’t get discussed without daily connections. So what did you eat today? Did you finish your book? How did that meeting go at work? These are not questions we ask or discuss if we talk once a week.

Rarely do we have BIG DAYS. We have a chain of LITTLE DAYS with LITTLE MOMENTS that can be shared with another. Someone cares about the little moments in our lives. And we care about the little moments in theirs.

Find that special person, whether it’s your spouse, child, or friend. Daily connection makes life more meaningful.


Kathleen Cairns, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in West Hartford, Connecticut. She works with adults, adolescents, and couples. You may call her at 860-236-5555 to make an appointment. She is the author of “The Psychotherapy Workbook.”  You may email her at and she will try to answer as many of your questions as possible.

Life goes on… and every day matters…

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