So often in my practice, I hear about the frustration and hopelessnessfelt by so many men and women (and teenagers) about how hard it is to meet someone special. Finding your match can be daunting, and yet the most beautiful stories I’ve heard are always about serendipity.
A seemingly chance meeting that was completely unexpected.
On a personal note, I normally do not self-disclose, but thought my story was simple and completely unexpected, a perfect example of serendipity.
I grew up at a beach since age 7, and in the winter, there were only about 12 families that lived there all year round. In those days, as kids, we could go outside to play without any supervision. We would ride bikes and swim and sled and climb trees. 3 years ago, I was walking my dog Grace in the neighborhood, as my mother still lives there. And there was one of the boys from my childhood who was visiting his brother who had just moved back to their family home! We hadn’t seen each other since high school. He lives in California, and even though I was there for 10 years, we were never in touch. So we began to email and text and call and visit, and over time, a wonderful relationship has been created. When you least expect it…..
So, I would love to hear from all of you about how you met your love. Please reply below and it will be shared anonymously for all to read. Hopefully, it will inspire others to have faith that love will enter.
LIFE GOES ON©
Kathleen Cairns, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in West Hartford, Connecticut. She works with adults, adolescents, and couples. You may call her at 860-236-5555 to make an appointment. She is the author of “The Psychotherapy Workbook.” You may email her at firstname.lastname@example.org and she will try to answer as many of your questions as possible.
Life goes on… and every day matters…