HELP FOR BULLIES? Victims are receiving a lot of attention lately. There is pending legislation to protect them from bullying in schools and online. It’s about time. I found the following statistics at the http://behavioral-management.com/bullying-statistics…
BAD BOYS AND NICE GIRLS Why do nice girls like bad boys? And why do nice boys like bad girls? Let’s define BAD BOY. Rule breaker. (cheating, lying, stealing, breaking laws) Aggressive behavior (fighting, swearing,…
PSYCHOLOGICAL POWER OF A UNIFORM My doorbell rang around 10am. I looked through the curtain and saw a UPS man with a package at my back door. I opened the door. He entered. First sign….
HOW TO FIND PEACE Sadly, most of us are stressed, overworked, anxious, depressed, depleted of energy after long days of work and family obligations. This world it too fast for most of us. Addictions are…
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, When I was a child, I was abused and neglected and lived in many foster homes. I am very good at taking care of others because I never want anyone to feel…
STAY OFF THE ROLLER COASTER! DEAR DOCTOR KATHEEN, I’m married to a very moody man. One minute he’s up, the next moment he’s raging. His temper is explosive and seems to come out of nowhere….
Honesty & Integrity If we have lived most of our lives in unhealthy relationships, most likely we’re not accustomed to living in honesty. We have lived in the denial of our own emotions, needs, and…
FOOD/MOOD CALENDAR I advise a very strong method of healing/feeling/dealing with life for all of those who want to ACT, NOT REACT, to YOUR mood. EVERYTHING YOU PUT INTO YOUR BODY IS A CHEMICAL. Food,…
It was a dark and stormy night. My patient, let’s call her Mary, went to a bar in an upscale restaurant, looking to meet a man. Divorced a few years ago, she felt ready to…
HOW I MET MY PARTNER So often in my practice, I hear about the frustration and hopelessnessfelt by so many men and women (and teenagers) about how hard it is to meet someone special. Finding…
HEALTH, NOT AGE As a psychologist, I often hear my patients talk about their fear of aging. Pretty, young girls see their first wrinkle and freak out. They talk about turning 30 as if it…
PATIENT-THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP Psychotherapy creates a very unique relationship based on confidentiality, trust, openness, and safety. As a psychologist, I am legally and ethically bound to secrecy of everything you tell me. (Exceptions are if you…
CHOICE NOT NEED Jung introduced the concept of Introverts and Extroverts. Often misunderstood, we tend to think of Introverts as being quiet and shy, and think of Extroverts as being the life of the…
SADNESS NOT MADNESS Anger is contagious. An angry voice fills us with fear, stress, anxiety, and anger. It’s abrasive, unattractive, repellant, and we want to get away. Flight or fight. React with fear or aggression….
PSYCH MEDS Many psychological issues are not related to childhood trauma, abuse, neglect, or painful life events. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar 1 & 2, Schizophrenia are examples of mental illness that may…
THE 3/4 LIFE CRISIS We’ve all heard about the mid-life crisis. But there is also what I call THE ¾ LIFE CRISIS. OK, so you’re 60+and starting to feel OLD. You may be…
Here’s the problem. It’s MOTHER’S DAY. Hallmark Card moments. Television commercials recommending hearts and flowers. Beautiful gifts. But, what if you don’t have a great relationship with your mother? What if your mother has abused/neglected/disappointed…
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am 28 years old and my boyfriend of 1 year is 33 and has been divorced. We are about to be engaged but I worry that we could get divorced too….
WHAT IS CBT? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, CBT, is a method of psychotherapy that enables one to deal with negative feelings and behaviors by tackling issues that cause discomfort in daily life. Let me take you…
K.I.S.S. – KINDNESS IS SO SIMPLE Imagine two people in an argument. You can see them but you can’t hear their words. One is animatedly gesturing, appears to be yelling, and is making severe facial…