LIFE GOES ON: Freedom From Limitations!
Rosa came to this country from Mexico when she was two months old. She has never returned, and yet she feels trapped in the Old World values of traditional Hispanic religious beliefs. Her parents prayed…
Articles by Dr. Kathleen Cairns
LIFE GOES ON: Perfectly Unhappy
PERFECTLY UNHAPPY DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am happily married (most of the time) to a very disorganized man. When he undertakes a project, he does it half-heartedly and it takes him forever. For example, he…
LIFE GOES ON: “January Men” (& Women!)
Now that the holidays are upon us, I want to remind you of this phenomenon that I call January Men & Women. I had so many reponses last year that I’ve decided to run this…
LIFE GOES ON: Why Did I Come Into This Room???
WHY DID I COME INTO THIS ROOM? Last week, the East Coast lost power as the result of Storm Alfred. Some of us were without electricity for 10 days or more. We initially felt power-less!…
LIFE GOES ON: Protect Yourself and Be Your Own Healthcare Advocate
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I have a mother’s intuition that something is terribly wrong with my 2-year-old daughter. She is lethargic, doesn’t make eye contact, and doesn’t interact with other children. Her pediatrician says she is…
LIFE GOES ON: Life Unplugged
LIFE UNPLUGGED For those of us on the east coast without electricity since Saturday October 30, life has focused on the pursuit of warmth, food, water, and safety. BUT MOSTLY, IT HAS BEEN A QUEST…
LIFE GOES ON: History Repeats
HISTORY REPEATS DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am wondering why all of my relationships have been with abusive men. At first they seem to be loving and good to me. And about 6 months into the…
LIFE GOES ON: Online Emotional Affairs
ONLINE EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, Every night after dinner, my husband gets on his computer for the rest of the evening. He tells me he has to work at home just to stay on…
LIFE GOES ON: Celebrate Life When Alive
Celebrate Life When Alive I recently attended memorial services for a wonderful woman who had everything to live for. High school sweetheart husband, 3 smart and handsome sons, loving siblings, life-long friends, beautiful home,…
LIFE GOES ON: Living In Fear
LIVING IN FEAR DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am scared of everything. If I have a cold, I think it will turn into pneumonia. When I drive my car at night, I’m certain I will be…
LIFE GOES ON: Do I Have Purple Hair?
PURPLE HAIR DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am 29 years old, have a great husband, 2 beautiful children, wonderful friends, and yet my self-esteem is painfully low. When I was a child, my parents were neglectful…
LIFE GOES ON: Misdiagnosis Of Bipolar Disorder
UNDIAGNOSED BIPOLAR DISORDER (AKA MANIC DEPRESSIVE DISORDER) A few months ago, Catherine Zeta Jones disclosed that she suffered from Bipolar 2 Disorder. This was a courageous act that will hopefully lessen the stigma of mental…
LIFE GOES ON: Who Do You Want To Be?
LIFE GOES ON: Who Do You Want To Be? You can create a new life for yourself whenever you want. Take an assessment of your life: your past, your present, and how you would…
LifeGoesOn: The Pie Exercise
THE PIE EXERCISE DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I feel like all I ever do it work. There is never time for me. I have a full time job, a husband, and 3 teenagers. My…
LIFE GOES ON: The Psychology of Fame & Fortune
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF FAME AND FORTUNE – A Look Into what makes someone like Congressman Weiner Tick Anonymity is the reason we may angrily cut someone off in traffic, scream and yell and swear. Road…
LIFE GOES ON: Jack & Jill
JACK AND JILL: How To Understand The Male & Female Parts Of Ourselves There are certain traits in our society that are seen as masculine and feminine. Masculinity is often paired with aggression, decisiveness, logic,…
LIFE GOES ON: RUN TO THE ROAR
RUN TO THE ROAR Tuesday night, author Paul Assainante spoke to my book club about his book, “Run To The Roar: Coaching To Overcome Fear.” He has coached the men’s squash team at Trinity College…
LIFE GOES ON: Death of the Verb TO BE
I am in mourning for the words AM, IS, and ARE. In my memory, it all started in the 90s with the Arsenio Hall Show. Arsenio was charismatic, charming, a GQ dresser, and had his…
LIFE GOES ON: The Melancholy of Photographs
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I was married for 60 years to the most wonderful man I’ve ever known. He was my best friend and we did everything together. He passed away suddenly 5 months ago and…
LIFE GOES ON: How to Meditate
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, How do I meditate? I know it’s good for me but I have no method. Please help us all with the basics. YEARNING FOR INNER PEACE DEAR Y.F. I.P., CLOSE YOUR…