LIFE GOES ON: Guilty Girl
GUILT Dear Doctor Kathleen, I am 29 years old and still live at home with my parents. I know this is not normal and would love to get my own apartment. I’ve saved the money…
Articles by Dr. Kathleen Cairns
LIFE GOES ON: From Eeyore to Tigger
FROM EEYORE TO TIGGER DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am a worrier. I usually have 3 or 4 problems running through my mind every day. It’s exhausting! Most of the stuff I worry about never even…
LIFE GOES ON: Charlie Sheen: The Media Strikes Again
CHARLIE SHEEN – THE MEDIA STRIKES AGAIN Several weeks ago, I wrote a column called “NARCISSISTIC POLITITIANS AND THE MEDIA.” I wrote, “Mental illness is a disease of the brain. It is a PHYSICAL disease…
LIFE GOES ON: Tech School vs. College?
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am so worried about my son. He is 18 and will graduate from high school this year, and he should be applying to colleges. No matter what I say, he refuses…
LIFE GOES ON: Mindful Weight Loss
MINDFUL WEIGHT LOSS DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am so weary of not fitting into my own clothes. I can’t wear anything except my sweat pants! Every morning I wake up feeling strong, determined that THIS…
LIFE GOES ON: Tiger Moms Book, Beware
TIGER MOM BOOK Battle Hymn of the Tiger Moms is a new book written by Amy Chua, a Chinese-American law professor from Yale. This book has caused much controversy because of her harsh parenting methods….
LIFE GOES ON: Light At The End Of The Tunnel
THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL Dear Doctor Kathleen, I am experiencing a lot of physical pain as a result of a terrible car accident. My fear is that I’m never going to…
LIFE GOES ON: Narcissistic Media & Politicians
The day after the tragic shooting in Tucson, Arizona, I was shocked when I heard the reactions from many politicians and the media. Almost all were blaming each other, taking responsibility and motivation off of…
LIFE GOES ON: Feeling Empty, Why?
WHO AM I? DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, No matter how many people tell me that I am smart and lovable and kind, I feel stupid and unlikable and undeserving of happiness. WHY? Please explain…
LIFE GOES ON: January Can Be Dangerous For Men
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, My wife of 14 years just announced that she wants a divorce! I am so shocked! She told me calmly, as if she was asking me to go to the store, instead…
LIFE GOES ON: How To Make Resolutions Work
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN: I want to make 2011 better than 2010. Every January, I make resolutions, but by December, nothing has changed. What can I do to differently this year? STUCK YEAR AFTER YEAR DEAR…
LIFE GOES ON: WASTE NOT, WANT NOT
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, My family has so much, and yet it’s Christmastime, the season of giving. I want to give my children presents from Santa (they are 5 and 6 and still believe!), but I…
EATING DISORDERS: What To Do To Heal
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. My entire life is focused on food. I have been anorexic since the age of 14, and now, at the age of…
LIFE GOES ON: Even Children Worry About The Economy
LIFE GOES ON: MOMMY, DADDY, ARE WE POOR? DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, My heart was broken the other day when my 8 year-old son asked, “Are we poor?” I said “No, honey, why would you ask?…
LIFE GOES ON: Getting Lost In A Relationship?
DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I have been dating a wonderful man for over a year. He is everything I’ve always wanted in a partner. BUT, it seems that every time I’m in a relationship, I lose…
LIFE GOES ON: Giving Thanks
THANKS-GIVING DEAR DOCTOR KATHLEEN, I am separated and sad. This Thanksgiving will be the first holiday that I will not celebrate with my wife and children. I will have them for part of the day,…
LIFE GOES ON: The Beautiful Restaurant
DEAR DOCTOR CAIRNS, I am not getting any younger. I’m a 36-year-old woman who desperately wants children. I’ve been dating someone who is OK, but certainly not my soul mate. Should I settle and marry…
LIFE GOES ON: BEAUTY LIES
BEAUTY LIES WATCH THIS FIRST, THEN READ: http://www.dove.us/#/features/videos/default.aspx[cp-documentid=7049579] I worked as a psychologist in Beverly Hills for 10 years. My office was across the street from one of the most prominent plastic surgery clinics in…
Life Goes On: How To Soothe Yourself When All Seems Wrong
Dear Doctor Kathleen, I am so sad. My husband of 40 years died 5 months ago and I feel so lost. I’m in counseling and taking an antidepressant. Both help, but there are days when…
LIFE GOES ON: Time To Play
LIFE GOES ON Hello Readers, I’ve received such a huge response from so many of you in response to my column about inappropriate magazine covers in grocery stores. I want to suggest that if we…